Posted by Ted on September 4, 2002, at 11:10:42
In reply to Re: and the $600 question... Ted..., posted by ~~tabitha~~ on September 4, 2002, at 1:11:11
Hi Tabby,
> OK, so it's who you feel safe in opening up to. Excuse my probing, but surely it couldn't just be anyone? Doesn't your loved one need some unique qualities?
She somehow (and I can't describe just how) has to have the personality that is comforting and trusting enough to allow me to open up. I can't sense threat of any kind. I dunno. Geez -- your worse than my therapist. Wanna job? You're *good*.
>Once again I failed to be special enough to make daddy stay. Boy is that an awful feeling.
We all had different childhood difficulties. Your parents apparently split up and you blamed yourself. In my case, my parents are still married after 55 years. However, I received ZERO emotional support or companionship when growing up. My parents don't know me nor do I know them. For me, it is fear of simple abandonment, fear of simple loneliness.
>The actual loss of the relationship is pretty minor in comparison.
Actually, that part is sometimes desirable. :-)
> Your wife must be lucky to have snagged her dream man first thing!
To be perfectly honest, I think she went for "good enough" or "less bad than the others" rather than "dream man" or "soul mate". She grew up in a vastly more dysfunctional family than me.
> No test, sincere question. Thanks for your thoughts.
You're welcome.
> >How do I collect my $600?
>
> ulp, um, er, the check's in the mail.Yeah, yeah.... :-)
Ted
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