Posted by allisonm on August 2, 2002, at 0:16:08
In reply to Re: Romance and DepressionGabbi, posted by Peter S. on August 1, 2002, at 22:33:45
Peter,
Your description of feelings of unworthiness and fear being magnified to ridiculous heights made me cringe inside when I read it. Ugh! I know that feeling so well it gives me shivers. Then in this relationship of mine that recently ended, I made it worse by worrying that the object of my affections (I've only had one since my divorce 3 years ago) will not want me around anymore...and that became a self-fulfilling prophecy, sort of. It's easy to blame yourself or your depression for a relationship failure, but I know that there were problems of other sorts that had nothing to do with me. It's really hard to put away the other feelings (Ex.: I was unworthy, who would want to be around a depressive, etc.) and look at the whole picture, but I am trying. Having a psychiatrist/therapist who knows it wasn't "me" or "just me and my depression" helps alot. He has held up the mirror so I could see a situation closer to reality.Wish I had advice or something worthwhile to say. Your post struck a nerve and I had to reply.
Allison
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