Posted by Penny on July 7, 2002, at 11:32:21
So, one of my closest friends is having surgery next week (July 10) to have a fibroid removed from her uterus. The same day, the little boy I babysit (I'm a part-time nanny and live with the family) is having a tonsillectomy. I had planned to go to see my friend and be with her after the surgery for a little while. But the family I work for didn't know this until too late, and they scheduled the child's surgery for the same day. So, I feel obligated to stay and help out with the children, considering that it is a job for me and they do provide me with a place to live.
I ran this whole thing by my IOP group and therapist and the therapist said that because nannying is a job for me, it would probably need to come first. I tend to agree and am also not sure I could emotionally handle being with my friend at this time.
Problem is, when I told my friend, she went off on one of her 'they're taking advantage of you' speeches and got really quiet. Obviously she's upset with me. I don't know what to do, but all I hear from therapists is that I'm not supposed to internalize it, that her feelings are hers and not mine...
but I feel guilty as hell and like there's no winning for me in this situation. I resent being asked to be in two places at once, and I can't do both as the cities are two and a half hours away from each other...
As though suffering from a mood disorder wasn't bad enough already...
a sorrowful penny
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