Posted by IsoM on May 27, 2002, at 13:22:30
In reply to How do you act normal?, posted by Gracie2 on May 26, 2002, at 19:36:16
Gracie, for what reason is your husband insisting? I don't know what sort of guy he is so I'm trying to tailor my suggestions for all types.
1. Is he insisting from misguided love - thinking that once you get there, you'll enjoy yourself after all?
2. Is he insisting because he feels lost without you at his side & thinks you SHOULD be there with the rest of his family?
3. Or does he insist because he's ashamed to admit to his family that his wife is suffering from a 'disorder' & has to stay behind?
Whatever the reasons for his wanting you to accompany him, appeal to him from a positive view.
1. Let him know how much more happy & relaxed you will be with a rest at home while he's enjoying himself. When he gets back, you'll both feel good.2. Let him know how little you'll be at his side, but hiding somewhere away from the others. Let him know you won't be a support but a hindrance instead.
3. Tell him he can explain you not feeling good & not able to come with him much easier than explaining you freaking out at the family gathering, throwing up in his mother's sink, etc.
Don't know if this'll help any but I suggest you bring this up with him after he's had a good meal & feels relaxed. Choose your time to discuss this with him wisely.
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