Posted by wendy b. on April 3, 2002, at 14:24:39
In reply to Re: In love with my therapist » wendy b., posted by allisonf on March 31, 2002, at 22:33:16
Allison,
Thank you for your reply. I am so drawn to this issue of transference, probably because I read a lot of Freud back in the day, and still think the contributions he made toward understanding the human mind are astounding... the importance of the transference relationship being one of them...
As for staying on with the relationship with the therapist and working it out, I think you are making the right decision. I myself never worked it all through with either of my therapists, I guess it's a long process... Maybe when I reach the end of the depression, the transference stuff will fall away too. But that seems like such a long way off.
I'm glad you thought my post was positive. I do think wounds can heal, but if we don't know, or deny, that they're there, the road will be very long. As for cognitive behavioral methods, I don't quite understand them well enough to judge them. All I know is if my mother and father and the past aren't formative of the now and of the future, then I really won't be able to make sense of my world. I don't know if you understand what I mean...?
Thank you for taking the time to write to me! It was very sweet of you. And I wish you well, and hope to hear from you again about what you're experiencing in the therapy...
Wendy
> Wendy,
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> I just wanted to respond to your lovely words of encouragement. A few days ago, I was ready to stop therapy and just "get my therapist out of my life completely", and reading your message again has made me rethink things. It seems like your experience going thru and resolving the transference issues with the therapist to whom they were directed really has changed your life for the better. I do see the way this relationship mirrors early parental experiences, and I am really hoping that talking this out with my therapist a bit more may help me to cool down and gain perspective. She is a cognitive behaviorist by training, so I think her desire to investigate the past is outweighed by her focus on changing the future...which I suppose in the end isn't a bad thing. But I just wanted to let you know that I so appreciate your words of support and your positive take on the issue. Thanks!
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> Take care--
> Allison
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