Posted by beardedlady on March 21, 2002, at 6:29:07
In reply to Lying, posted by Rach on March 21, 2002, at 5:53:26
Lying is one of those things that fall into the either/or category. Either you do, or you don't. As a rule, I don't (though I lied to the mortgage company once when I forgot a payment). In fact, if I do, I usually feel so guilty I have to confess. So I just don't.
I think the moment of truth (no pun intended) came when I told the truth about why I didn't show up for school. I realized that the truth is usually perfectly acceptable. Most people have been through everything we've been through and understand all the human feelings--shame, laziness, sloth, fatigue, fear, love, anger, hatred, spring fever, etc.
Since you don't like to lie and don't want to lie, maybe you should start with the next situation that would normally get a lie out of you, and tell the truth instead. ("I am so sorry I missed the meeting. It was one of those days when I couldn't find my keys, I ripped my shirt on a broken doorknob, I left the house without my wallet and had to drive all the way back, and then I collapsed on the bed crying. I hope we can reschedule." I used this one because a form of it happened to me, and I got out of paying the doctor's fee you have to pay if you don't cancel before 24 hours.)
I hope it works for you.
beardy : )>
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