Posted by wendy b. on January 29, 2002, at 13:04:51
In reply to the old krew, posted by sar on January 28, 2002, at 19:38:29
ok, wendy b checking in...
(also see response to your "ahhhh" thread, I have some suggestions.)
I am working, teaching, not on a regular schedule, this is bad. My daughter and I are suffering from sinus infections, so we're home, yet again. But if I don't work, I don't get paid. Her father never takes time off work, and he has a regular salary and sick days that accrue. Thing is, my kid doesn't want to go to his house when she's sick, cuz he's not exactly comforting... He's the kind of guy who gets mad at you when you're sick, cuz he's having a bad time. So instead of comforting, he blames. Should I charge him childcare costs?
Anyway, otherwise I'm fine emotionally, told you about the dates I've been having on the other thread... Several months ago, my therapist told me there were many men who were my age who were available and willing and ready to date. I was suspicious. Where were they? I didn't know, and at this age, and in the small town I live in, I can't hang out in bars. Or let's say: when I do hang out in bars, it's with friends, but they're all much younger than me (cute boys, musicians). Therapist sorta told me to get over my last relationship, finally, and I just did after a year. Like, it's over, and I could let go.
So. Suddenly, I'm interested in other men again. I was not a man-hater before, but I was definitely turned off to guys for a year. Now it's like I'm a new person, or the old me, or something... The online dating service I'm using is very good. It's like you get what you pay for. So 2 out of 4 (that's half) of the guys I've met in the last two weeks are gonna be repeats. I'm very happy about this, got a real crush on one. My mother says: "Don't let him know!" And I wonder if telling someone up front and being honest, like I always did in the past, is the way to go, or if hiding and being demure and a flirt is better. What do you recommend? Anyone else have any dating "strategies," as it were?
I feel like I'm new to this at age 41. I don't think I ever dated before, just got involved with people right away. It was too soon with everyone I've been with. So how do I keep calm, keep cool? Maybe mom was right...
Anyway, I'm here, just not posting too much, but I haven't gone anywhere...
lots of love,
Wendy> where are yall, & how are you?
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> willow, mouse, dreamer, krazy kat, wendy b....?
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> library internet time limited, otherwise i'd hunt the archives.
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> check in if & when you get this...hope you're well!
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> love,
> sar
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