Posted by Glenn Fagelson on December 5, 2001, at 18:42:30
In reply to Jealous, posted by Roo on December 3, 2001, at 12:46:45
> My exboyfriend, who I broke up with just a couple of months
> ago, has now started seeing someone else. it's so hard
> I'm so damn jealous! I know I have no right to be, b/c
> I'm the one that broke his heart, but still it's hard. previous
> to his seeing someone else, even though we were broken
> up we were hanging out 2 or 3 times a week, and slipping up
> and having sex sometimes. Argh. It's such an ugly
> low down feeling--I don't want him, but I don't want
> anyone else to have him. I feel angry towards him and
> I begrudge him his happiness and almost feel like punishing
> him for dating someone else (I resist these feelings of
> course, but it feels so ugly that they are there). Please
> someone tell me this is all human. My higher self knows
> that this is really a good thing and it will help me to
> let go and move on. We had a lot of trouble letting go
> of each other and it caused us a lot of pain. I hope eventually
> I can get over this and that we can be friends.Hi Roo,
What you are going through is very human. I don't know whether your feeling stems from real love or not. It sounds more like an ego thing with you; don't you think?
I wish you the best; I have felt jealousy before, and it is no fun to have it.
Glenn
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