Posted by Kristi on December 2, 2001, at 13:55:08
In reply to No need to feel that way, posted by Augusta on December 1, 2001, at 22:01:52
Augusta,
Your post was pretty insightful..... hit the nail on the head.
Even tho our conversation didn't fully give me closure... well, I guess it gave me the closest I'll ever get.
I think I'll always love him, and always have an empty space in my heart for him.
He was the "one" that 4 years into our dating, I still got the flutters. We "seemed" to be the perfect couple. I guess not.
I just have to learn to cherish the memory and not him.
Thanks much for replying. Take care... Krisi
> > . . . .one in particular who just upped and left a couple of years ago. I didn't know where he went.
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> > So... at a low moment I called him.
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> Kristi,
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> Here is my take on your story -- who created this problem? It seems to me that he did. It is not nice and not fair to just "disappear" on someone, as he did to you. Since you did not have a chance to say goodbye or ask any questions, or anything else, it is not all that surprising that something has remained in your system, that you did not achieve (if you'll excuse the word) "closure" with respect to him.
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> And we all do that, I think, when we feel very, very low. We look back for a time when we felt better and we think of the people who made us feel better and who might do so again.
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> So, I think that he is the one who has to account for his actions, not you. Hopefully, having spoken to him now you will have a clearer sense that this relationship is indeed over, and you will be able to move on to something more rewarding. (I really don't mean to hurt you by saying that, it just does seem that that's what has happened.)
poster:Kristi
thread:14697
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