Posted by sar on October 6, 2001, at 19:54:21
In reply to Re: more on: interesting questions, Sar, posted by Wendy B. on October 5, 2001, at 11:50:47
> i was never a big Depo fan, although i never took it. one little pill every morning, day in and day out, works well for me. low-dose tricyclics: triphasil or ortho-tri-cyclen, besides the mircette, are the ones to ask for. they're all good because they vary the amounts of estrogen and progestin, throughout the cycle. people who balk at taking hormones all the time seem to like these better than the other OCs (oral contraceptives). so it's something close to a a 'mini-pill,' but more effective as a contraceptive. also will decrease your water-weight gain (bloaty feeling) right before the period, or eliminate it.
a girl i know recommended ortho-novum...sound good?
> the only thing i'd want to say as a caution, tho, is that you may get side-effects like emotional lability, or anger/irritability right before your period. some people do. others are so relieved about contraception or their ability to have a *normal* (i.e.: regular) period, they're overjoyed. so watch for that if you ever did want to try the tri-cyclics. the prozac might take the edge off any of the anger irritability, or you could just up the dose the week before your period, etc.because i'm so irregular, my period always takes me by surprise and i think that i've become a bloated, teary hermit just out of the blue. pms never makes me angry, just sad and tired. would the pill change that and make me irritable instead?
> i mention the anger/irritability thing, because maybe 4-5 years ago, i was way out of control with anger, for a week, then 2, then 3 out of the month, before my period. the period would end it, and then i'd get back on the mood swings. i was pulling my hair out! i was on a tri-cyclic, and we switched to the mircette, but i still had swings. the dr suggested i take some zoloft. so that was how i first started on an AD. through my GYN. interesting... it definitely worked, we tweaked the dose from 50 to 100 mg, and i was on it for years. i gained 30 lbs over that time, but i didn't care... for the first time in my life i felt that around the corner there wasn't some fresh disaster waiting to happen. my reaction to the zoloft made me realize i had been depressed since childhood...the zoloft caused you to gain 30 lbs? has the wellbutrin helped to temper any weight gain? it's really amazing what drugs can do; my social anxiety has melted away 90% and i've really been enjoying people...i feel depressed at heart, but i can enjoy things again...
> it pooped out on me, though, more than a year ago, so that's when i was prescribed effexor (horrible! couldn't get off the couch), and now wellbutrin and neurontin...eek! yeah, i tried effexor to, that's actually how i found Dr. Bob's site, and the effexor didn't do anything but scare me as i read of its side-effects and withdrawal sympotoms. how many mgs of neurontin are you on? for the first week or so i was on it i really felt kind of euphoric, and now that i've gone up to what i understand is the "minimal dose" (900 mgs) i feel like i did before. that neet floaty everthangs-cool feeling has disappeared... :(
> you've got to get insurance, yeah. the bookstore doesn't have anything? or you have to be full-time? if they don't that's awful...
they gave a 30-day window when they employed me to get insurance but at that time i couldn't read much more than The Cat in the Hat and certainly not this big insurance booklet different plans numbers percentages, it was too overwhelming...so i missed it. the next "open period" is in november. currently i'm getting all of my meds for free through a city program, but i don't think they'll toss in for birth control, too. ('tho i should investigate!)
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> cold curbs? you gotta be kidding, right? 'hey mom, i'm having sex!' is she that out of touch? i take it she doesn't 'know' or wishes to ignore, your drinking, too? i'm having trouble seeing how this works when you all live in the same house...
i am not kidding. 2 words i never heard in my house growing up were "god" and "sex." she bought me judy blume books and all (the best!) but we've never had a mom-to-daughter type talk. she's a symbolic ostrich, the middle-class woman's angry martha stewart, she's never smoked a cig or done drugs or gotten drunk. and she's not lying. i inherited my social anxiety from her, it's just that i've always been determined to break through it while she bows down to it. COLD CURBS. not kidding....> yeah, you need older girlfriends. they are a VAST storehouse of knowledge. you can ask them all sorts of questions about sex, and they won't be phased a bit, and they'll go on and on for hours... but luckily, you have us!! (beam)
yes! thank you! :)
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> well, i didn't quite say that he *shouldn't* bump into your cervix! it feels good if it's not too rough. also, you can have a very deep and wonderful orgasm from getting nudged a little there... again, in my experience. but i think i read it somewhere, too.
well, i've never been sure about that! sometimes i worry that i'm going to be like, damaged or something, with that bumping. sometimes it feels good and sometimes horrible...i guess depending on how into it i am...> oh yeah! dr used to say 'woman on top' positions were the best when you had a tendency to UTIs, since you can control the penetration better... my drs are so cool, they talk so easily about things like this...
i never see medical docs anymore...
> i'm also wondering if drinking doesn't exacerbate the UTI problems? (hey! another reason to stop, or at least cut back...)no, i've had them twice before, and that was when i was a mere stoner... :)
> oh, well, i won't lecture you, i've certainly done the unprotected thing before (but i was on the pill). unprotected from STDs and stuff. it was bad, i know, i guess i just trusted my new love-interest enough that he wouldn't have AIDS or whatever else. and it turned out he didn't... other lovers before the last one: one was RELIGIOUS about condoms, because in NO WAY was he going to get a woman preggers, he was adamant. the others were, to be frank, older than me, and AIDS or whatever wasn't even a concept. although i know that's stupid...all of this has been kind of blind, REALLY STUPID, particularly because i do community restitution at an AIDS center...
> >i'm not down with gloves 'cos they would be like, professional or remind my of the gyn or something. i have to get it in my head that if we're having sex, then i should feel comfortable discussing this with him YES YES YES i RESOLVE to discuss it with the boy
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> yeah, well, the gloves i would have a hard time with, but not with somebody i knew really well. you really have a crush on your GYN, hmmmm? washing hands *very* well would work too, wouldn't it? i mean, they wouldn't be sterile, but...
i don't even have a gyn, you dork! and all of gyns have been 50-yr old women, very nice but not my type... :)> sure, talk to the boy! he's a grownup... he doesn't want you to have UTIs, because let's face it: every time you get one, it cuts back on the time available for sex (you have to take antibiotics or sulpha drugs for 36-48 hrs before you can have sex again). plus, the girlfriend is in pain, and he doesn't want that... you'll be surprised how well and how easily he understands, and he'll have empathy for you...
it's still long-distance right now, we see each other about once a week, i'll talk to him this next time... (yeeee, & i can't wait to see him!)thanks wen,
sar
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