Posted by sar on September 9, 2001, at 2:39:44
In reply to Kazoo Sar - how this feels, posted by mair on September 7, 2001, at 16:30:05
dear mair,
i thin people are usually satisfied by a simple explanation if they even bother to ask--i.e., "we spoke in a long grocery line last week," "we met at the dr's office" (not a lie, hee hee), "my husband knows one of her friends"--whatever. in my experience, ppl generally aren't as curious/suspicious as i'd thought they were.
would definitely discuss this with yr pdoc, in simple terms: "it somewhat offends me thsat you ignore me though i'm you're patient"--and assure her that you're not going to like, accost her, but a nod and smile--some form of acknowledgement would make you feel better. i would imagine that pdocs/therapists might harbor a fear that patients they run into on their free time might lodge intosomesort of pseudo-phychiatric/therapist session sight there in the street. after all, they do treat loonies, you know? :) i would imagine that they're trying to protect their own personal privacy as well.
i would address it directly: hey doc, it kind of hurts me when you ifnore me...i don't expect you stop and chat, but give me some eye contact and a smile, hey?
i would feel really weird if any of my regular docs ignored me on the street. i'd expect a smile/nod at the least or a brief meet & greet. your doc may just need to know that yr not gonna be like "Omigaw! guess whats going on today!" or totally mortified that (s)he acknolwdges you.
just my floundering thoughts...
sar
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