Posted by mila on August 15, 2001, at 7:02:05
In reply to Re: memories, posted by ChrisK on August 15, 2001, at 5:08:34
Thank you, Chris,
yours are wonderful memories.
when my father died, my mother-in-law did a radical grief intervention on me within hours of his death. She pushed me onto a sofa and ordered me to tell her everything about my father, without hiding anything. Not the kind of stuff they put in the obituaries, but a candid story of the man's life and character. It took me 6 hours. And I believe it saved my baby ( I was 8 months pregnant then). I barely spoke Spanish then, and had to choose words very carefully, constantly looking into the dictionary. god bless her patience. I have never grieved (in the usual sense of word) afterwards. Father in my dreams now is always healthy and supportive, the best of his waking self. and in waking i do not have to tell people about the other side of him.
I wonder what is the proper grieving in your understanding? Has your father's story been told?
thanks again
mila
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