Posted by Willow on June 17, 2001, at 13:46:01
In reply to Re: Especially not them!, posted by Dr. Bob on June 17, 2001, at 9:32:21
> and therapists are not that comfortable with you being open with them either: it makes them angry and weak.
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> There, I'm not sure I follow you. Why do they get angry and weak?
I sat here playing "Free Cell" trying to figure out wether to post or not? I'm not comfortable posting personal information or even talking about it in general. (probably part of the reason for the somatic problems.) When I'm not stressed I'm more open, and when I start having a hard time I go into my "cope mode" - paste on a happy face and focus on facts.With my spouse's and friend's encouragement during a weak moment I confided something to the therapist that I hadn't shared with anybody. The whole tone of the conversation changed. He was visibly affected and kinda brushed off the subject when I mentioned it again during better moments.
So my view of the situation is that it frustrated him or changed his view of my situation. Him not broaching the subject again, perhaps feeling unable or inadequate in some way.
Who knows? Therapists are human too, with their own sets of thoughts; once in awhile we get a glimpse of this and I don't think the therapeutic partnership really enjoys this.
Willow
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