Posted by Doo on May 7, 2001, at 11:36:35
In reply to WHAT DO PEOPLE LOOK FOR IN A PSYCHOLOGIST?, posted by KS on May 2, 2001, at 6:50:24
Hello,
I've read the messages in the thread and they are very instructive and I won't repeat any of what has been said.
But I can add one or two things I look for in a psychologist:
- philosophical curiosity, an ability to think about human condition in general. That way when I'm completely overwhelmed by the existential nothingness, or loneliness, I can feel the one in front of me knows a bit what's going on, why I'm so in pain.
- What I expect from a psychologist is that he doesn't "need" me, that he won't "use" me to satisfy his own emotional needs. This is an extremely subtle process, that requires from the psychologist a great self-consciousness and emotional control. I think this is one of the major reasons why some therapies "fail" to work. When the psychologist needs from his clients to reflect him that he is a good psychologist, that he is helping, the client will feel it. And the therapeutic process can be completely stopped. What happens then is a repetition of another unsatisfying relation.
What I really don't like from a psychologist is when he/she confronts my views when I know they are right. I don't like confrontations in general, but when they are 'wrong confrontations', this is done.
So this is it, hope it helps...
Doo
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