Posted by Hannah on November 9, 2000, at 21:26:21
In reply to Re: Emotional/Verbal abuse, posted by noa on November 9, 2000, at 18:56:22
Thanks noa I appreciate your kind words. I don't want to upset people. I don't have any big emotional investment in this board and I think it would best if I moved on . But it's not because I'm ashamed of anything I said thought or felt. And it's not because I think it's my fault :-)
You're a very thoughtful person. You should think about setting up an online therapy business or a personal coaching service. I really think you would be great at it. Goodbye and happy adventures in all your worlds, real and fantastic!!Hannah
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> I just reread some of the relevant posts from that earlier thread, and appreciate the manner in which you raised your concern.
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> It upsets me that this blew up so fast, and I hope it can be resolved.
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> I hope Greg changes his mind and comes back, and I can see that you are willing to hold a dialogue and didn't use an attacking approach.
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> I guess Greg must have felt attacked, and perhaps it was the tone of the other poster who objected, I don't know.
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> I imagine that for Greg, to be judged insensitive or abusive is so devastating because that is not who he is, even if it is the case that he miscalculated how the humor might be experienced by some.
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> From your post to Greg thanking him for apologizing, and expressing the feeling that he need not leave, I can tell that you are someone who recognizes that Greg is a person who would not intentionally abuse or mistreat anyone, and that he would gladly alter his actions if he learned that they had hurt someone unintentionally.
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> My sense is that it was hard for some people to recognize what you were trying to express, because they (we) had taken the humor for what it was, and in the context of this silly play-acting thread, saw it as funny, and because Greg was so hurt by the reactions, people were not in a place in which they were very receptive to your position.
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> I don't blame you for anything. I hope that we can all get past this and that Greg will come back and that we can have open dialogue in a caring and respectful environment.
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> Thanks.
poster:Hannah
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