Posted by Hannah on November 9, 2000, at 8:06:25
In reply to Sexist humor is abusive..... » coral, posted by Hannah on November 9, 2000, at 7:37:10
This is a good link. Although it is specifically written for emotional/verbal abuse of a partner I think it could be generalized to any human relationship.
http://www.cawc.org/a_verbal.htmlI am copying part of it below. I wouldn't have had the courage to object if alice hadn't spoken up. But it did indeed make me feel many of the feelings described. (But feeling like I should be a "good sport" and not object.) And having it minimized or told that I "shouldn't" object didn't help. I'm not crazy or irrational or unreasonable.
VERBAL & EMOTIONAL ABUSESome definitions: Verbal assaults, manipulative and or controlling behaviors toward a partner which cause that person to feel afraid, confused, overwhelmed, threatened, powerless, crazy, inadequate, frustrated, or rejected.
The purpose of the verbal assaults and manipulations is to gain and maintain power over the partner. Forms of verbal and emotional abuse include, but are not limited to:
• name-calling
• making jokes at other's expense X
• yelling
• accusing
• blaming
• criticizing
• threatening
• refusing to talk
• making degrading remarks X
• arguing
• put-downs X
• judging X
• demanding
• ordering a person to do something
• minimizing things that are important to the other X
• denying previous abusive words and behaviors XI Xed some of the more applicable.
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