Posted by Ted on October 20, 2000, at 15:22:31
In reply to hi everybody, posted by laural on October 20, 2000, at 4:09:58
Laural,
If I may share my point of view.... If your boyfriend acts like he doesn't want to know about your past or cannot deal with your past, I would have serious difficulties. Mental illness is not like petty thievery -- we *will* eventually relapse, maybe mildly, maybe severely. If your boyfriend is trying to hide from your past out of fear or ignorance, you have a big job to do *now* to educate him because the last thing you need is to have him run off frightened just when you need him the most.
This is just my own simplistic view and might not be shared by everyone. If he is as intelligent and accepting as he is kind and just, then your job will be easy. If he has preconceived notions of how your mental health will be forever in the future, he (and you) will be sadly disappointed.
I wish you the best of luck. Make sure that you keep up frequent email, visits, telephone calls, and even email photos to each other. If you don't, most long-distance relationships will eventually drift apart (voice of failed experience).
Ted
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