Posted by deerock on October 20, 2014, at 20:56:14
In reply to Re: stalking, posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2014, at 16:07:13
thanks for your response. i appreciate it.
my T calls it an addictive relationship and he is clear that this is not healthy and it needs to end.
Even though the relationship is over, i keep finding myself contacting this person and keeping communication alive, even though we have not seen each other, i have the drive to reconnect w her and am unable to let go, despite intellectual knowledge that this is harmful both for me and for her.
my T keeps suggesting i let the realtionship go and recently suggested i go on meds to help w. this. i keep reaching out to this woman and she has began to accept my phone calls and we talk. i have a huge drive to reconcile even though we both know what we had was toxic for both of us. what i experience is intolerable loneliness and T often tells me I am choosing to avoid the pain by reconnecting w. her or engaging in other harmful addictions (cigarettes or drinking).
i really really want a better life and move beyond this relationship and these addictions but the feelings i experience when moving away from this stuff are paralyzing.
wondering if you can relate and have any suggestions on moving forward. i think youre right about getting a hobby or something new.
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