Posted by Twinleaf on October 9, 2014, at 9:58:27
In reply to Re: MIA but back now...Triggers!Possible » Twinleaf, posted by rskontos on October 8, 2014, at 22:39:54
It sounds like your husband is acting out problems from abuse in his own childhood - I have read that that kind of projection is responsible for about 95% of marital breakdowns. Hopefully, he is motivated to make some real changes in his feelings and behavior. I think it's wonderful - and a tribute to you - that your children were insightful and resilient enough to identify the problem and help get it out in the open.
Your first therapist sounds about as bad as mine! Mine wanted me to meet him in the evenings for concerts and lectures, and when I wouldn't, began telling me I was the sickest, worst patient he had ever had. Unbelievably, I had such a need for an emotional connection at that point that I actually put up with it for several years - so hard to believe now.
Your next two therapists sound wonderful. They "got" you, and seemed to know just how to help you grow. What a gift these therapists have! Mine was the same - not excessively warm, but he, too, seemed to understand just what I needed. I feel that I have him inside me now, helping me make healthy decisions and responses; I don't feel that I actually need his presence.
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