Posted by alexandra_k on September 20, 2013, at 23:57:53
In reply to Re: Ideal Fit, posted by pegasus on September 19, 2013, at 12:56:44
I have always found important things wrong with the fit, too. Even with the therapists who (in hindsight) really helped me a great deal. I remember that when I was working with them I had reservations about them. Thought that there would be therapists out there who would be better for me / better suited to working with me.
Even my last therapist. Who I probably idealize now since he's gone... I remember packing a right wobbly that he wasn't there for me when I got back from the US - even though he said he would be before I left and I let him know at least 1 month in advance of my return date (as soon as I'd booked the flights). Then I got back and... He said he didn't even know that I wanted to see him! And I was like 'why did you think I told you when I'd booked my flights for!' And I just couldn't believe...
And I never trusted him again. Not that I trusted him particularly before that... Sniff... Whatever.
What you say about things feeling safer because of the lack of chemistry... I think I understand that. Yeah.
> Maybe one of the things I need to work out in therapy is related to never feeling sufficiently attuned.
Maybe.
How would you know you were sufficiently attuned. / What do you think a therapist would have to do / be like to have you feel sufficiently attuned?
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