Posted by obsidian on February 2, 2009, at 14:14:57
In reply to Questions about your T, posted by Looney Tunes on January 31, 2009, at 13:22:15
> So since I am really struggling with my T and am trying to figure out if my issues are "normal" here are some questions that if you all could answer would be helpful. -- Thanks so much!
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> 1) How long have you been with CURRENT T? Did you have a previous T?10 years, no previous T
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> 2) Is your T male or female?male
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> 3) What is the orientation of your T? Did you know when you started with T?psychodynamic
> 4) Are you older, younger, or same age as T?
younger, by about 25 years maybe?
> 5) What type of transference have you experienced? Do you think it is limited by your T's age or gender?lots of father type transference, fears of rejection/abandonment (my father did leave)
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> 6) Do you look at your T? How frequently? (I mean literally at their face when talking)yes, pretty frequently, though maybe not so much if I am just talking on and on about something, or I am saying something difficult
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> 7) What is your greatest fear of your T?that he will dump me/disappear
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> 8) Do you just let yourself "be" in T? Or are you composed and careful?I am very often careful, but a heck of a lot less than I was in the beginning. This was a lot of the work. I wasn't used to talking about myself and I wasn't used to anyone listening to me, and I surely didn't think that anyone wanted to hear what I had to say.
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> Now, I know since someone is going to ask about me:
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> 1) I have been with current T about 5-6 months
> I had a previous T for 3.5 years. And a couple of T's when I was a kid (foster care).
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> 2) T is male. Which I can't believe I can even sit in the same room, but he is very non-scary.
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> 3) I don't know. T is "psychodyamically" trained, but does object relations, EMDR, etc. Kind of eclectic. I had no idea what T did, I was referred.
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> 4) I am late 20s; T is 40ish. I wish T was older.
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> 5) Parental transference; although I am SOOO embarassed because T is not old enough to be my parent; sibling tranference; transference about abandonment and rejection; again completely embarrassed.
> I think transference would be more intense if T was older, because I try and keep it hidden because he is not old enough to be my parent.
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> 6) I NEVER look at T (that I know of). He keeps saying "look at me LT" but I can't.
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> 7)I think T is going is disappear (he doesn't know though)
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poster:obsidian
thread:877372
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