Posted by sharon7 on February 1, 2009, at 0:29:31
In reply to Questions about your T, posted by Looney Tunes on January 31, 2009, at 13:22:15
Hey, LT. Here you go. Hope it helps. (o:
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> 1) How long have you been with CURRENT T? Did you have a previous T?1.5 years. Prev T's over the years but nothing long term. My current T is my longest.
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> 2) Is your T male or female?Female
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> 3) What is the orientation of your T? Did you know when you started with T?I believe she's primarily CBT.
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> 4) Are you older, younger, or same age as T?I'm younger, although I am not sure how much.
It's really hard to tell how old she is. I'd say probably at least 10, though.
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> 5) What type of transference have you experienced? Do you think it is limited by your T's age or gender?Very strong maternal transference. I've never had an issue about not having a father, but I've always needed a mother. I have only ever had maternal transference feelings towards other women.
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> 6) Do you look at your T? How frequently? (I mean literally at their face when talking)Probably for the most part I look away. Sometimes I stare at the ceiling. I think eye contact can be hard because we get so embarrassed talking about our feelings.
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> 7) What is your greatest fear of your T?That she will not want to be my T anymore.
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> 8) Do you just let yourself "be" in T? Or are you composed and careful?I think I let myself be. (o:
Oh, and I've had 'mothers' that were only 6 or 7 years older than me, so it's more the position the person holds, their maturity, nurturing qualities, more so than age. The older they are the better, and I couldn't imagine feeling the whole mother thing going on with a woman younger than me, or a man, but I know that women can develop maternal feelings for a male therapist. I find that facinating!
Sounds like what you are feeling is completely normal. I'm actually battling with the whole transference thing right now myself. I have not discussed it at all with my T.
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