Posted by Kath on October 24, 2008, at 19:57:51
In reply to Choice or allowing?, posted by Sigismund on October 24, 2008, at 2:41:10
It's really great reading everyone's input.
I'm finding it helpful to try & shift my concept so that "suffering is a choice" does NOT mean, as Seldomseen said, "whiteknuckling it through pain".
I'm really trying to be aware, when in pain, that resisting pain makes it worse.
AN EXERCISE:
I can feel emotional pain - or I guess experience it, in how I'm feeling - like as in a mood. I also sometimes feel emotional pain in my body - mostly when I'm lying in bed in the morning before getting up. When this happens, I'm trying to allow myself to feel it. This is interesting. This morning, for ex, at one point I felt a tight oval shape in the centre of my chest....maybe somewhat larger than a large grapefruit, but oval - 3 dimensional.
So I asked myself:
What does is look like - what colour is it? Gray & black
What does it smell like? Like heavy stale woodsmoke
What does it sound like? Like a dull thumpy sound
What does it taste like? Bitter
What does it feel like? Cold & hardThen as I experienced the last one, it sort of just dissolved. This morning I did this with 2 separate 'shapes' in my chest. Both times they sort of dissipated.
If it feels like it's in my head - like a mood - I'm trying to look at it & take a breath & say - OK - this is just how I'm feeling right now. It lessens the panicky feelng for sure.
Anyone have any interesting ways in which they deal with emotional pain?
Kath
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