Posted by Kath on October 22, 2008, at 20:27:35
In reply to Re: Pain is part of life, but suffering is a choice???, posted by Dinah on October 22, 2008, at 20:02:58
Thx Dinah,
I particularly like your description of the mother.
I am in a place in my life where I'm trying to come to terms with the reality that my son is schizophrenic. Up 'til very recently I've spent the last almost 2 years clinging to his being 'different from how he was' as a substance-abuse-induced psychosis (event - even though long-term) ...as opposed to possibly a substance-abuse-induced schizophrenia (state - possibly permanent).
Recently, the sadness & grief have finally begun to bubble up & out. Also the facing the facts. He might get to a place where he's doing better (I mean he already has, but I mean even better than that) or he might not.
I think I've been expending a huge amount of energy in trying to get him to do things that might well help him...and also in wishing & hoping that this will change.
So your example is a good one.
I think the hoping for change is the thing that is keeping me in the suffering.
So I think simple acceptance of what IS might be a good goal for me.I really appreciate the input so far on this topic. Thanks all.
Kath
PS - when I just re-read this, I sound very analytical etc. It's actually very intense emotionally but I think I'm 'handling' it by being scientific. I think I can only handle a very little of the pain at a time.
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