Posted by Racer on August 30, 2008, at 16:04:17
In reply to Re: Therapist tells me...., posted by Amanda29 on August 30, 2008, at 11:34:22
Maybe this book would help you: "Children of the Self Absorbed." My therapist recommended it to me, and I found it helpful.
I can't find words to express what your post triggered for me. It's something to do with the fact that you seem to have people who do value you, who do feel affection for you -- and yet something is preventing you from recognizing that. I am struggling with that something related just now, which is likely why I can't express it. Do you think maybe you're looking for that Good Mother that you missed out on? Someone who'd take care of you, meet your needs, and create that sense of security for you? Or maybe you're looking for some sort of unrealistically perfect reflection of yourself, someone to look up to you as you may look up to others? I really can't express what I'm intuiting after reading your post. I hope that something in it resonates enough to help you.
And I think it's all got something to do with healthy narcissism, which is probably the most helpful thing I've said in this whole post...
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