Posted by sassyfrancesca on August 15, 2008, at 15:44:23
In reply to pdoc update**poss sa trigger**REALLY LONG, posted by antigua3 on August 15, 2008, at 15:24:27
((((Antigua))): It took a lot of courage for you to bring up what you did, and as I was reading I "knew" what you were thinking (about what your pdoc was going to say, and how he would react)...I think you were so focussed on what you just "knew" he would say, that you missed what really happened....is that right?
Trust me.....pdoc's have heard the most horrific stories (or at least I think they have; don't know much about the pdoc's--just the t's . They don't judge.....You can....go back, but it is your choice.....As I said....it took a great deal of courage for you to share what you did, and take the chance you did.
You should feel proud of yourself.
He doesn't feel you are an "awful" person...from what I can tell about what you said, it was something which happened to you as a child; you did nothing wrong....unfortunately (forgive me, if I am not reading this stuff right), but when an adult abuses a child, THEY are responsible.
The terrible consequences are that the child (innocent) takes the blame and shame that belog t0 the adult (abuser).....the abuser(s) go on with their lives as if nothing had ever happened (and to them, they have no conscience, and so nothing wrong did happen).......and the child grows up with all the blame and shame that BELONGS TO THE ADULT ABUSER.
Sorry, I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group, and I hear horrific stuff all of the time, and I always get so angry at what was/is done to innocent children......
It sounds as if you can trust him; perhaps you can try again? I know how scary that can be.
I know how I feel about it when anyone (anyone at all) is kind to me ( it is though I don't deserve it), and so I understand those feelings.
He sounds understanding and compassionate......
(you said something to another t and he referred you out??!!)....he cannot have been any good.
Hugs and Love, Sassy
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