Posted by sunnydays on August 14, 2008, at 12:32:27
In reply to Sitting in Silence...watching my money disappear, posted by Looney Tunes on August 12, 2008, at 22:56:59
My T would ask me lots of questions to try to find something I felt comfortable talking about. There was a lot of silence when I first started t, though. It wasn't so much for me about 'f you" but more that I didn't feel comfortable and safe anywhere in my life at that time, and so why I would I trust this stranger sitting there? I would encourage you to talk to your t about why you are silent and the feeling of control - it sounds important. My T would always ask me why I was quiet, or remark that it still felt a lot like question and answer and that helped. At least I could talk about being quiet (although most of the time I think I just said I didn't know). As I have trusted more, the silences are less frequent, so he ALWAYS comments on them as they usually mean I'm having some strong emotion.
sunnydays
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