Posted by Daisym on August 12, 2008, at 23:43:53
In reply to Re: Sitting in Silence...watching my money disappe, posted by healing928 on August 12, 2008, at 23:21:07
If you feel totally in control, then perhaps you need to do this in order to feel safe with this new therapist. Verbal communication is only about 10% of what is happening between two people. There are probably many things happening as you sit there.
And your therapist is letting you lead - which is a real skill, especially in a new relationship. If you were getting upset, or frustrated, then I'd expect the therapist to try to break the impass. But if you sit there, fairly composed, then the ball is in your court. I guess your therapist is probably letting you decide how best to use your sessions. You are getting something out of this - and when you aren't, you'll either stop going or start talking.
Silence is hard for me - it feels threatening most of the time. But more and more I'm finding that I can just "be" in therapy in the silence, and there is this shared space and sense of understanding. Sometimes I really need that.
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