Posted by llurpsienoodle on July 21, 2008, at 20:16:40
In reply to Re: Is it reckless to wear a skirt?, posted by Lemonaide on July 21, 2008, at 18:06:00
Hi Lemona,
Thanks for your thoughtful postI guess the issue is that I associate men looking at me with bad things happening to me. Yep, we're working on feeling safe in safe situations-- the therapy office being a prime example. I have difficulty at times with tolerating my own sexuality. It's not so much of a self-esteem issue. In a world of only women, I'd be smashing every day. But in the real world, 50% of folks have a Y chromosome. It's THEIR attention that I have trouble with. Because their attention brings out a part of me (the part that is sexy) that I'm not entirely comfy with.
Bringing out my inner sexy beast is something that I have to LEARN how to do. Tolerating the attention it may draw is something I have to get used to.
Psychologically, it's kind of a desensitization thing.
Am I leaping ahead too quickly? oh, probably. maybe it's more like flooding than a gradual desensitization.
-Ll
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