Posted by sunnydays on March 2, 2008, at 12:08:12
In reply to Re: Crush on psychologist in training, posted by estrellita on March 1, 2008, at 23:05:22
See, I have wishes that I could do all sorts of things with my T outside of therapy - totally with him as a parental figure though. We've talked about it a lot, and I know it can't ever happen and wouldn't be good for me. But he said something the other day that I liked and might help you, "This relationship is real, and I know this probably the most important single hour for you in your week. And sometimes we meet people in our life that are special to us and we think are really amazing, and it's almost a life-changing experience for us. Perhaps I'm one of those people for you. If so, that's something to be treasured, not looked down on as something wrong or bad (I was feeling like it was bad that I came to therapy). And in that case this will always be something you can look back on and treasure whenever you do decide to end therapy. It really is ok to have these feelings."
Can you look on it as a relationship to treasure, but one that just can't go outside the boundaries? There can be more than one person in life we fall in love with, so I would encourage you to talk with him about how to look for a similar feeling with someone outside of therapy.
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