Posted by seldomseen on January 19, 2008, at 14:03:39
In reply to Re: thoughts on this?, posted by raisinb on January 19, 2008, at 12:52:34
"If I feel more secure and accepting of myself, less needy of her approval, I am less devastated by her judgments? I don't know."
You said it sister! That is exactly how my therapy progressed.
At first when my therapist told me something - even though it was right - I would get mad because, well, because I hated everybody then. Then as I progressed, he would tell me things and I was would be devastated at how hurtful it was. Then, I went through a phase when I started listening to absolutely everything he said.
Now, I'm pretty much in the place where decide for myself if he's right or just way out in left field. I can trust myself enough to weigh his input, give it some objective thought and move forward. I gotta say - both he and I are pretty darn happy with that.
Everytime I tell him I think he is way out there, we both have a good laugh.
He's a good guy.
It sounds as though you are moving in that direction yourself. Yeah it hurts and I'm sorry. But it does get better.
Seldom.
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