Posted by frida on August 17, 2007, at 8:22:43
In reply to Re: Processing Stuff - Trigger, posted by DAisym on August 17, 2007, at 0:35:27
Dear Daisy,
I want to say I admire you for being able to trust and tell...Your friend just hasn't been there, so she doesn't know that even though we would like to be able to "forget it, leave things in the past and move on" it's just not that simple.
I haven't been able to talk freely, but keeping silent really is having bad consequences and affecting me greatly. Staying alone with this stuff inside is just much worse than finally sharing and processing this with someone who understands. I've tried to just stop thinking and putting it behind, and it just doesn't work. It keeps coming to me and I can't avoid it...
My T believes that putting into words everything that hides in that ugly, horrible river that is free inside and it hurts me and affects my life so much, will help to process it and at least see it as something that happened to me and not something that has so much power right now and I'm lost in it.I believe that telling can make a change...the isolation and silence and secret is like continuing what happened before. Breaking that, at least, brings the relief that we never had...of having someone to hear and believe us and make us feel clean so we can feel it'll be all right...
I'm proud of you for opening up and telling your T.
It inspires me.
Safety and love to you
Frida
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