Posted by Dinah on August 13, 2007, at 9:55:17
In reply to ***** Long, tedious and triggery *****, posted by Tamar on August 12, 2007, at 21:52:23
I happen to have a fair amount of experience with this. My therapist is unreliable at best, and when stressed, he is horrible at providing a consistent frame.
He told me when it was happening that he knew he was not at his best, or even good enough, that he was trying his best, and to please stick with him until things got better. Of course, he's ok with offering me reassurance so it was easier, and even then I had a horrible, horrible time of it and nearly quit because he really wasn't there in session and quitting wouldn't have been a big difference.
My therapist allowed workarounds on the reliability issue. Such as reminding him when he didn't do what he was supposed to do. And I still ask him at the beginning of each session if he has anything to tell me, because he's not good at remembering to tell me about things that he thinks I'll be upset about.
I'm not sure if your therapist, upon recognizing his shortcomings in the area, will allow you to get your own needs met to some small degree by such workarounds.
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