Posted by pegasus on May 2, 2007, at 10:04:11
In reply to Re: obsessed 'mother', posted by B2chica on May 1, 2007, at 7:55:11
Hi B2,
Yeah, I know it's easy to write those things, and not so easy to do them. It sounds like if your mom isn't going to listen to what you say, then your only option is to communicate by what you do. I agree with what Dinah says. And I've always admired the way Dinah discribes setting those boundaries with her parents. I'm sure it takes a lot of guts, especially at first. And especially when your husband isn't supportive of it, due to his own issues with conflict. But in the end, you gotta protect your daughter, and you are ultimately the one in charge of who she sees under what circumstances, no matter what your mom might think about that.
Are you really worried about your mom getting violent? Does she have a history of that? That would scare the bejesus out of me. If she is saying things that sound threatening to you, and you've seen her be violent in the past, I'd say a restraining order might not be the worst idea. One thing to consider, though, is that you can't just get a restraining order on anyone for any reason. In my state, for example, you need to document the reasons that you consider that person to be a threat, and then a judge decides whether to issue a restraining order. Not sure how much that varies in other states.
Whatever happens, I wish you much luck in dealing with your mom, and much much happiness with you daughter! Let us know what happens, ok?
peg
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