Posted by Dinah on May 1, 2007, at 18:15:17
In reply to obsessed 'mother', posted by B2chica on April 30, 2007, at 12:47:04
All I can think of is to set boundaries and stick to them. If you don't want her over, tell her it's not convenient. If she shows up anyway, don't answer the door. And tell her that any time she says anything to your daughter that your daughter shouldn't hear, you'll pack up and leave for the day.
If you need a restraining order, and if you think she may be violent, by all means get one.
I had to do this, and follow through, several times with both my parents. With my father that meant getting up and leaving (including in public places) if he said anything unkind to my son. With my mother, uninvited drop ins were and are a problem. I have to just stand firm.
Why doesn't your husband want you to say anything? My husband was delighted when I set limits with my parents.
poster:Dinah
thread:754656
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