Posted by Dinah on February 19, 2007, at 11:31:31
In reply to Re: At the beginning » Dinah, posted by Honore on February 18, 2007, at 22:25:32
We talked about it today, and I'm glad we did. It's been one of those things that always underly our relationship, and was the subject of an argument that derailed therapy for a year or so, but in time I had learned to "forget" or "not notice".
But buoyed by your encouragement, I did bring it up and didn't let it slide away.
We reached a statement that we could both endorse without reservation or hidden additions. "I have specific social deficits and social anxiety and trust issues that make forming attachments and meaningful relationships difficult for me. But once I clear those hurdles, I'm capable of forming deep and lasting relationships, and in fact have done so."
I can live with that, and so can he. :)
It acknowledges all the relationships I do have, both canine and human. While acknowledging the areas where I do have trouble.
We talked a lot about attachment too. It's not something he has a lot of knowledge about, and I'm not sure he's all that interested in serious study of it since he mainly does short term work, but he does seem interested in hearing about it.
Honore, he said the same thing you did about my parenting. I'll try to incorporate them. :/
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