Posted by Honore on January 15, 2007, at 11:42:58
In reply to After looking at my options, posted by Dinah on January 15, 2007, at 9:31:59
Hmmmm.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
I don't know. Are you sure, Dinah?
I know you love your Father a lot-- but do you have to be like him? Isn't there a middle/other path?
I have the feeling that something is going on here that you haven't mentioned-- maybe you know what it is and don't want to say. I totally understand if that's it.
But maybe it has something to do with your son's getting older, and your sense that you're losing him? Or something else? I don't know. I'm just associating-- but I mean that I think there is something specific that's really troubling you-- and that you're trying to make it go away by doing certain things-- that might not be really grappling with whatever the feelings, or sense of loss, or pressure-- whatever it is.
If I were the tooth fairy, I would go to your boss and work out a work deal for you that was less disruptive to your sense of well-being. Or I'd tell him "bye-bye" and get you a better job. I know there are better jobs. But I also know that this is where your Father worked-- and you probably don't want to lose that connection. I think I'd just tell your boss to get it together and treat you right. I think it could be done-- if you only could give yourself the right to do it. That's incredibly hard, I realize.
I do have a feeling that extreme measures are not called for-- half-way measures are what you need-- ie not stopping your T, and not quitting your job-- ie not getting a different life-- but finding a way to moderate the demands, and get breathing space for yourself inside your life.
But it is really awfully hard-- but maybe thinking about how to move in that direction?
Sorry it's so hard now.
Honore
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