Posted by Tamar on January 1, 2007, at 17:15:28
In reply to Re: why can't I leave therapy? » Tamar, posted by Daisym on December 29, 2006, at 14:05:49
> My first instinct is to comfort you and offer all the reasons that he could have been at his office. I know my agency is closed for 2 weeks and yet I've been there just about every day for one thing or another. But...
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> I find myself furious for you! Given the missed appointments, and the forgetting and the lateness, I would agree with your not-so-paranoid side that something is up. What is that saying? "Just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean I'm not being followed." Tamar, I think you HAVE to bring all this up. Outline it like he would. What would he think if you were doing all of this, wouldn't he wonder what you were avoiding and how the therapy is going? I know he is sort of a blank slate therapist, but there is a line where not knowing makes a client worse, it isn't helpful. If it was me, I wouldn't wait until next Friday. I'd be calling and leaving a message about how distraught I was. I can't imagine how hurt you are and how impossible it must feel to wait.I REALLY have to talk about it. I can't just let it slide. I've been feeling wretched for days. I'd call him but I'm useless on the phone; I really need to see his reactions when I speak to him.
> I find myself hoping for a simple, easy explanation, like he left his glasses or had an emergency. You've known for awhile that you need to confront this. It seems to me that it is now confronting you. Don't you hate theraputic opportunities for growth when they are of the painful sort? I'm sending you strength and good energy. Hang in there.
Thanks. Y'know, I think the worst part of this is the sense that it's yet another thing in my list of grievances. It could have been anything; it jut happened to be discovering that he was at the office when I thought he was supposed to be at home.
He says it's OK for me to shout at him, but so far I've resisted... maybe it's time for a brawl!
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