Posted by annierose on December 19, 2006, at 16:48:47
In reply to not connecting with T (long), posted by wishingstar on December 19, 2006, at 16:03:30
You say you want it to be hard, but yet you do not tell her how you feel. That's the hard part. You have to let her in if you want her to help you --- but that IS hard.
When you wrote that she now reminds you of Anne, a yellow flag should go off. When our patterns repeat themselves - and they do - it says more about us than the other person. It's our inner voice re-enacting again and again the same pattern we have come to know and be comfortable with. In order to break that pattern, it takes courage. Tell Ginny what you wrote here. That you see this same pattern taking shape and that scares you.
One thing that is very hard to remember, as much as we wished that our therapists could read our minds, they cannot. She is missing the pain because you are not telling her about it. I know, she "should" know. But she doesn't unless you tell her.
I'm sorry you feel so sad lately. It is common for therapy with a therapist to go smoothly at first, you feel a sense of relief, and then the "real" work begins --- the week in and week out of life and its travails. Let Ginny help you.
Good Luck,
Annie
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