Posted by sandrafromdurham on December 11, 2006, at 16:34:44
In reply to Re: anyone still in love with their T..? Or not..? » muffled, posted by Scentedgarden on December 7, 2006, at 15:05:08
Dear Scentedgarden, Oh, wow, now i see why we might not want to use our real name. I read from your post that you need/want to hear from others who have similar feelings and experiences to yours with your therapist. I've been in a similar situation to yours for four years. Almost since i started my treatment with this T I have felt a strong attraction with definite sexual overtones. Yes, I'd like to make him moan. I have been able, with great difficulty, to make my feelings known. We have had terrible problems looking for a resolution to these feelings that does not (no matter how much i try) include actually acting on them. About two and a half years ago he told me that he had come to love me. (He said it first.) We are both married also and he, more than I, is strongly opposed to cheating. . . Well, as you know, it's all very complicated and also ridiculously cliched and moronic. I want to also say that he is a really good psychotherapist which he is consciously determined to be despite this "little" problem and continues to believe that he can be helpful to me in my treatment. I believe this also, except that it hurts so bad to want to be with him and it gets so confusing--who's doing the wanting and who is wanted, etc.--transference vs. real relationship--As for getting to know the real person, have you tried simply asking? I am amazed at how much you can get that way, although, now we really do know each other well. I can ask pretty much anything but also respect limits, i don't ask about his sex with wife, etc (but i do hope he's not having any with her). Write back if you still want to discuss this, I am surprised there was not much response. Sandra
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