Posted by muffled on December 4, 2006, at 10:40:34
In reply to Does your T ask? ***SI trigger***, posted by bottomfeeder on December 3, 2006, at 23:47:01
The SI thing is hard. I have been thru that fairly thoroughly with my T.
She respects that its a coping mechanism that I have used "sucessfully" for a great many years. It has saved me from greater harm. She said that she hates that I hurt myself, but respects my need to do so. And that we need to replace that coping mechanism with better ones that are less damaging to me. If she sees a bandaid or an injury, she will ask. Sometimes she just 'checks in' to see if I been doing it much lately. She doesn't ask everytime. She will ask where, and if its taken care of properly(though not so much anymore cuz she knows I do good wound care). But she NEVER will out and out ask to see it. She would look if I showed her, cuz she tough, but I don't show her, cuz I know it would hurt her heart to see it.
I am a Mom, so she has presented it to me as what if my kid were doing it, and I turned it round and sked if it were HER kid doing it....We had quite different responses to it!It was actually a very interesting conversation to me. I should open my mouth more often!LOL!
Take care,
Muffled
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