Posted by wishingstar on November 27, 2006, at 20:55:41
In reply to Re: im still around » wishingstar, posted by TherapyGirl on November 27, 2006, at 20:22:21
That's how I feel too! But Anne (according to what she told Ginny anyway) explains it differently.
Anne and I had talked about the idea that maybe it wasnt working, maybe I should switch, etc, but I was having a very hard time deciding. I was very attached and it was hard to think of not seeing her anymore... and I wasnt completely sure the reasons the therapy was going bad werent my fault, and something I needed to work through. So, apparently Anne's explanation now is that I was having a hard time leaving, and she felt like she had to do it for me. Now, I can see that argument IF it was true! Part is true - I was having a lot of trouble with the idea of quitting. But never once - not one time - did she tell me I needed to move on, she wouldnt see me, it was over, etc. Not once did she say that, so obviously there was never a time where I refused to leave, manipulated things so I could stay, etc. I mean, had she said "next week is your last session" what could I have said? Been upset, sure.. but I wouldnt have kept showing up anyway. All along I felt like she was sort of torn between me staying and leaving too. In fact, when she talked to Randy (when she dropped me) he said that she told him just that - that she wasnt sure what to do. So it's a bad excuse. But I know it's how she's justifying it to herself. Did I need a little kick in the butt to get moving? Probably. But that was more than a little bit of tough love, so to speak.
I think Anne's meanness comes out of an amazing degree of cluelessness. I dont think she really means to be mean. I think she is just so out there.. so clueless.. she doesnt realize how she may be affecting someone. And that's SCARY for any person, especially a therapist.
Eerrrrr. It's just so unfair. I see Ginny tomorrow.. maybe I'll talk to her about this. Thank you again.
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