Posted by sunnydays on November 20, 2006, at 20:48:03
In reply to Re: please.... » sunnydays, posted by madeline on November 20, 2006, at 6:52:34
> Well, when I channeled it all into my therapist I had to deal with a lot of hurt (in addition to the hurt I felt about missing so much as a child).
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> I was quite an jolt when I realized that this man was never going to be my father, he could not ride me away on this white horse and save me.
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> I was not his kid, no matter how much I wanted to be.
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> It was a different kind of grief, but it was all rolled into grieving for my childhood.
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> So I got really really mad at him. I almost quit therapy over it. HE became everything bad that had ever happened to me.
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> But I didn't quit, I stayed in there, he understood how I felt and we worked through it. His unwavering support finally got though to me.
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> He was not going to be my dad, my lover, my best friend, but he was someone that was going to be with me while I went through this.
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> We have a really good relationship now and I have a lot more confidence when I deal with life.
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> I wish that there was some way I could reach out to you and make this pain go away, because frankly, it sucks.
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> But I had to do it, and maybe you do too.
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> Love and tears
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> MaddieThanks maddie. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to me.
sunnydays
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