Posted by Dinah on August 11, 2006, at 8:07:58
In reply to Re: The strangest things bother me » Dinah, posted by Tamar on August 10, 2006, at 18:06:00
I'm going to ask him exactly who I'm being passive aggressive to. I didn't like the example he gave to show what he meant. :( But I can't see who he was referring to as the target.
I do know he's been fussing at me lately because I told him I hate my body, but it didn't really affect how I thought of myself, because I don't really think of my body as being part of myself. I think my actual words were to ask if it was ok to hate my body as long as I didn't hate myself. He understood instantly what I meant, but he's really been annoyed or upset about it, or something. He keeps bringing it up in all sorts of contexts. Perhaps he means I'm being passive aggressive to the body I hate. Can you be passive aggressive to your body?
I've long known he's slightly repelled by my physical appearance and my style of presentation. He's so fastidious and very trendy. But the thing is that I have reasons for a lot of what I do. It's not just to look odd. I wear my hair in braids or a ponytail because in my latter years I find the feel of hair touching my face or neck unpleasant. I wear Keds because with my diabetes and water retention, I find most shoes unbearably uncomfortable. And I like long skirts because I like the freedom of skirts, but hate to worry about crossing my legs. I let comfort trump style because I'd rather feel good than look good.
But I have cute Keds and pretty long skirts, and love to dress up my pulled back hair in hair baubles. I guess in my own way, I try.
Ok, the pink and yellow I can't excuse. But by the time the enthusiasm passed, my closet was full of it and I wasn't about to spend more money.
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