Posted by ElaineM on July 25, 2006, at 20:52:48
In reply to I love my shrink (***trigger***), posted by Tamar on July 25, 2006, at 19:11:32
Oh Tamar, I feel like I know the love your 18yr old is longing for. It's a terrible thing to want that badly -- so hard. I don't know what to tell you. I remember some of the difficulties you've been going through with him, and how his very rigid boundaries come at the expense of sharing. I wish I knew of a compromise.
Have you ever approached him, from a peer position, from your "friendship wanting" place, and asked him what he feels about allowing himself, as a T, to be cared for? Maybe you have already.
At least you still are able to feel some connection with him. I'm so glad that you've had some valuable sessions. I hope you find that a little encouraging. You sound very torn. And the fact that you would show your hurt with new tears, says alot about how painful and confusing, your 18yrolds hunger is.
I wonder if there's a way you could test out the subject without letting it all out at once? Get a sense if he would be completely dismissive, or receptive.
Congrats on your book. What a great accomplishment. It sounds like your T thought so too. Are you looking forward to a change of scene with your vacation coming?
hugs, EL
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