Posted by LadyBug on July 25, 2006, at 1:23:24
In reply to He's leaving » LadyBug, posted by ElaineM on July 24, 2006, at 16:35:58
My T offered to come and see me last Thurs morning, 3 days after my surgery. I told her no, I wasn't feeling up to it. I regret it now a little bit, but at the time I didn't think I had the strength to go to the door to let her in let alone get myself ready. She offered to come one day this week, but I'm not thinking I could manage to drive myself to her office. I had my house all nice and clean for her before my surgery, now with my family not takikng care of things the way I do, it's not how I like it. So I'm really having my doubts that I have things looking good enough for me to let her come and visit me. It would be a first. If I'm up to driving, she shouldn't have to come and see me. I am having a second surgery next week.
I'm sad after reading your post about your visit. I do think your T is messing with your mind. Who wouldn't want to be loved and taken care of. It's just such a scary thing for me to see how things are going. It's gone far beyond any kind of boundaries. You are still the patient, but what he's offering you isn't therapy for YOU. He's taking pleasure in it and I'm afraid he will hurt you in the end. I may be wrong. I know you are intellegent and I know you have to trust your gut. Do you pay for your sessions? I sure hope not. And if I were you, I'd stop seeing him as his patient right away. If he wants to see you *Outside* his office, then that's where it needs to go. Please don't do work with him anymore. Please take care of yourself. If you want to have a relationship with him and he does too, then go that way. No more patient/therapist, it's gone too far.
Hugs to you my brave friend. Do be careful.
LadyBug
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