Posted by nellie7 on May 28, 2006, at 14:06:09
In reply to Need help- living with rejection by T, posted by kerria on May 27, 2006, at 14:49:58
Hi Kerria,
I am sorry you are suffering so much and that you can't find proper support. It must be very difficult to deal with feelings of having been rejected like that.
One possible suggestion- since you feel your past T understood you and was able to talk to your parts, would you consider trying to write to him asking him why he was angry with you for reasons that were beyond your control? You can tell him how difficult it is for you now and that you would like to understand why he reacted the way he did.
Is it possible that there was something about his words or behavior that affected some of your parts more than others?
I don't know what it is like to have different parts, but sometimes when I was feeling very depressed or frightened I misinterpreted things said to me in therapy and also felt very rejected and criticized. This felt very real to me but I was later told that it was a misinterpretation which was a result of the way I was feeling.
This may not be the case with you, but it might help you to discuss your feelings with him and to see his response.
It might be better to discuss your past T's behavior with your current T first, if you haven't done so already. She may also be able to advise you on what you should do, even though she doesn't understand about your parts.
I hope you find some solution and that you feel better soon.Take care,
Nellie.
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