Posted by happyflower on April 19, 2006, at 16:41:11
In reply to Re: need support and suggestions please » fairywings, posted by LadyBug on April 19, 2006, at 15:12:01
Ladybug,
I hear you tell your story and I feel like it is my future life with my husband. I can't support my kids if I leave my husband as well as they would need. So I am also staying in the marriage until my kids are older and I can work full time. I have been married 12 1/2 years, the first 10 1/2 years were okay, but last years are bad.
My Dh also is having an affair with a women at his work. They started off being friends, well she wanted more, and she keep after him , and eventually got what she wanted. My husband refused to talk more about this and refuses to do any therapy.
If I had the money, I would leave in a heartbeat. I am also now emotionally removed from him because it hurts too much to keep hoping for him to change.
My T says he respects what I am doing because I do have choices and I am making the best choice for my kids and me until I can financially be on my own.
But my T is seeing me slowly die inside because not matter what I do I can't fill that void that my marriage used to be for me. I am lonely. My T jokes and says I should get a boy toy, because I am in my sexual peak with nobody to enjoy it with. Plus I would make my DH use a condom(even though he had a vaceconmy) because who know what he might have come in contact with and I don't need any of that stuff. But I really don't have to worry about him wanting me, because it has been over year since we have had any intimatacy.
I guess if it is any comfort at all I am living with the same kind of crap.
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