Posted by Racer on February 3, 2006, at 2:09:57
In reply to Hurting, posted by Daisym on February 3, 2006, at 0:16:02
I've thought about that subject a fair amount, myself. I think that, no matter what your T is like, you can never see them realistically. You only see one side of them, and that makes it easy to forget that in real life they may belch at the table, or eat crackers in bed, or generally have trouble with large parts of their own lives. Maybe if we could see them as being a bit more rounded -- in the Forster sense -- it would be easier for us to get past that part of wanting them to rescue us.
Now, I've never seen a male T, and I don't think I ever could, so I don't know if it's different for that reason. What I do know is that I want my T to rescue me. In fact, I told her once that I wanted to ask her to rescue me -- Dr CattleProd had said something that upset me a lot, and I told her I wanted her to call him and tell him he was wrong. It became a bit of a topic, though a shortlived one with no sort of final resolution. Another time, though, she offered with the new pdoc. Said she'd call before my next appointment with her, and see if she could straighten out the problems I was having with her. (If that doesn't work, I'm just gonna ask my ob/gyn to prescribe the Wellbutrin and give up on pdocs and actual remission.) So, mine at least was willing to step in and rescue me in a situation in which she thought it appropriate. But I knew she wouldn't do it just to satisfy my childish desire to contradict Dr CattleProd.
I don't know. I'm babbling, because I'm tired and my eyes hurt. I'm sorry you're hurting, Daisy. Maybe you'd like to share the quilt? I can even offer a cat for your lap, if you'd like.
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