Posted by jammerlich on December 13, 2005, at 13:23:32
In reply to Re: Seemingly simple things which are so very hard... » jammerlich, posted by Anneke on December 13, 2005, at 12:30:13
>>>>> All of that being said, I'm not sure what the best route is to take. Have you considered starting therapy with another therapist?<<<<<I have considered it, but I don't see it happening. Therapy, that is something I want. The relationship and strong feelings, I didn't bargain for those and frankly, I find them uncomfortable and outright distasteful. I don't know how to keep those out of therapy and until I do, I'm not willing to risk developing them with/for a person who can't be there for me in a real and consistent way. Just can't deal with that again. And like I said before, if I felt them getting better, I wouldn't care about going back.
>>>>>I don't think that a Christmas card is a bad idea, but I also kind of believe in shooting straight, so if you're looking to go back into therapy with her, I'd probably tend to call her office to make an appointment or e-mail her or write to her. I understand that the Christmas card could be a kind of "testing the waters", but if she doesn't respond, you still don't really know what that means. It could mean she thinks you were simply sending a card. It could mean she'd be open to continuing therapy, but wants you to directly ask for that. Or it could mean that she's clueless and not the right therapist for you :)
<<<<< I'm such a clumsy writer, I'm sure I didn't make myself clear before. I don't expect her to see anything in the card other than a card. And I don't expect any kind of response. It's just a sort of gauge for *me,* to see how I feel about not hearing back. Maybe it's a dumb idea, I don't know. I don't think what I'm doing is not shooting straight. I don't expect her to get the card and think, "I need to call Jammer and see if she'd like to come back." If I can ever make the decision whether going back is the right thing, I fully intend to write (my tongue would be paralyzed if I tried to call) and flat-out ask for that.
Thanks for responding, Anneke. I'm glad you found us. I like you already! (I hope it's ok to say that)
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